I am also going to contact a lawyer but since it is 3:30 I thought I can hear your advice and experience as well while I wait.
My four year old son went to his father’s and claimed that he was strangled by my husband today. I know this didn’t happen because we were at a pork roast all day, and were outside the whole time.
The police stopped by and arrested my husband with a 0,000 bond, and also claimed there was a report made July 16th with photos accusing that my husband burned my son on the back with a cigarette. I don’t know how that report was made, because the police never contacted us about this before AND my son was with his father on vacation during that time.
The secretary also told me that I voluntarily released custody of my son a month ago, but that never happened.
My son came to me from his father’s a few months back and showed me a large burn mark on his belly. When I asked him what happened, he said his uncle (who is thirteen years old) was angry and burned him with a lamp. I confronted them about this and they said it was just an accident, and he wasn’t burned on purpose. I never called the police or anything.
If I can’t prove my husband innocent, he will be jailed for 15 to 20 years. I don’t know what to do.
Also, I was told that if I try to defend him, I will also face charges and never see my son again.
How can I prove he didn’t do it? I don’t have photos of him NOT doing anything. They are going by what a four year-old says. This is being taken very seriously, but I did not expect him to be facing 15 years of jail time.
And if they did get photos of a cigarette burn on his back on July 16th, why wasn’t I notified, or my husband? Why didn’t they carry him away then?
I’ve been fighting with the child’s father and grandmother, for a long time. I know this is their little plot to get him taken away from me. My husband bought a house in the same neighborhood as my son’s father, just so I can be closer to him and not have to worry about visitations, hassle of driving, etc.
Chosen Answer:
1. If your child was burned on his back (or anywhere else) with a cigarette, then there WILL be a scar, even if only a faint one. No small round scar = no cigarette burn.
2. A pork roast normally consists of a group of people. They can testify that they did NOT see your husband ‘strangle’ your son at the time he is accused of doing it.
3. Do NOT confer with anyone about this except your attorney. Do NOT speak with police, other attorneys, the child, friends, etc. Speak only to your husband and your attorney. Silence is golden.
4. Make a time line of all the fights that have taken place between you, your ex, and his family. It may show a pattern of behavior that you are NOT seeing because you have never looked for it.
Good luck to you.